When you’re overwhelmed with a negative emotion,
give yourself the wonderful Gift of the Gap.
The Gift of the Gap tells you to not rush,
go slow, and calm down. It tells you to
pause, ponder and pray. Because wisdom doesn’t shout.
Wisdom speaks in whispers. It’s only when you’re quiet inside
will you hear the faint voice of wisdom speak to you.
2 Kinds of People
- Emotionally Irresponsible Person
- First Phase:Emotion
- Second Phase: Expression
- Emotionally Responsible Person
- First Phase: Emotion
- Second Phase: Gap
- Third Phase: Expression
Choose The Pain That You Want
- There are two pains in this life: The pain of restraint and the pain of regret. The pain of restraint is uncomfortable. But the pain of regret is unbearable.
- When you give yourself the Gift of the Gap, you’re choosing the pain of restraint.
Feel Your Feelings
The purpose of the Gap is Emotional Detachment and not Emotional Denial.
- It’s okay to have difficult emotions. Feel them. If you’re sad, acknowledge your sadness. If you’re afraid, acknowledge your fear. If you’re angry, acknowledge your anger. But on one condition: Feel your difficult feelings before God.
- Remember: If you deny your feeling, you’re not only denying your feeling, you’re denying yourself.
- There are no good or bad feelings. It’s how you respond to those feelings that are good or bad.
How Do You Achieve Emotional Detachment?
- You can achieve emotional detachment by fantasizing your fantasies after feeling your feelings.
- It’s okay to have difficult emotions. Feel them. If you’re sad, acknowledge your sadness. If you’re afraid, acknowledge your fear. If you’re angry, acknowledge your anger. But on one condition: Feel your difficult feelings before God.
- Remember: If you deny your feeling, you’re not only denying your feeling, you’re denying yourself.
Fantasize Your Fantasies
Step 1: Fantasize Your Difficult Situation In Black and White
Imagine your difficult situation playing in a small black and white tv. You are outside the tv and just watching it from afar. By doing this, you will create emotional distance between you and the difficult situation.
Step 2: Fast Forward Your Fantasy
Imagine how your difficult situation will look like 10,20,30 years from now. Keep in mind the truth: Most of the things that bother us today mean absolutely NOTHING in the future.
Step 3: Imagine God’s Dream For Your Life
Always remind yourself that God has a wonderful Dream for your life. It’s a Dream of Abundance.
Let God give you great calm.
Emotional detachment. Inner peace.
And when you have inner peace,
you can hear God’s voice and obey Him.
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